“Take a step because what I found is even if you don’t know, there’s a part of you that does know and you don’t have to know where you’re going even though we’re told you have to know where you’re going. I believe you don’t have to know where you’re going in order to get to exactly where you really need to be for your highest destiny.“
Kute Blackson – Transformation Specialist, Speaker, Author; Forging your own path; The dream chooses you; trusting your vision; You.Are.The.One.
Segment 1: (Length :04:00) – General Updates; Introduction to Kute Blackson and his journey as an entrepreneur, speaker, author and transformation specialist; Forging his own path; Breaking from what was expected of him; Being honest with himself; Tapping into your truth; Facing your fears.
Kute’s finer points:
From a very young age, I always got a deep calling to serve people to make a difference in people's live. I remember being age 5 and feeling this burning desire to inspire people in some way.
“I didn’t know exactly what it was going to look like, but my first memories as a young boy was literally growing up in the church. My father’s a minister and I grew up seeing, as an example, a crippled woman crawling on the floor, picking up the sand my father walked on, wiping it on her face and standing up. Week after week, I would grow up seeing blind people see and deaf people hearing, and all these crazy miracles.”
“When I was 14, I was pretty much ordained as a minister. My father said, “Hey, my son is taking over the ministry.” There were hundreds of thousands of people in his organization that had pinned their hopes on me. The pressure of having to live up to your father’s expectation and everyone else’s expectation then.”
“. It’s interesting. I knew I wanted to help people but when it was announced, I’ll never forget the day when it was announced that I was taking over, I felt this sinking feeling in my heart because I knew that that wasn’t my truth. I knew that that wasn’t my path . . . At a young age, I didn’t have the courage to speak my truth, to speak up, to … I was afraid to disappoint my father. I was afraid of letting everyone else down. I was afraid of rocking the boat.”
My fear ultimately which I think is one of the fears that stop many of us from truly listening to the authentic knowing and truth in our hearts was, my fear was that I would be outcast, I would be alone, I would be abandoned, I wouldn't be loved.
“I said nothing and went along with it for 4 years. It took me 4 years of internal turmoil because I know the truth. Many times I think we know the truth inside. We feel the truth. We sense the truth that maybe there’s something more.”
“Many times, one of the things that kept me stuck and I think keep many of us stuck and truly unleashing a greatness or living fulfilling lives are all the ways that we lied to ourselves. We lied to ourselves. We don’t tell the truth to ourselves. We BS ourselves. We rationalize. We settle. We deny. That’s what I did for many years.'”
I was probably about 17, 18 when I came to a point where I have to make a choice. I realized if I follow everyone else's path for my life, I may be successful by everyone else's standards, by the world's standards, but If I don't have myself, then what do I have? I have nothing. That's not real success.
“I made the greatest choice. I spoke to my father and left everything behind. I had a conversation, decided nothing was worth compromising my truth. Nothing was worth compromising my soul, my own essence. Left everything. I was outcast. My father and I didn’t speak. Cut a long story short, ended up winning a green card in the lottery.”
“That’s what brought me to the US, two suitcases, just one suitcase full of clothes, one suitcase full of books, tapes of many of the self-help icons I’ve read about, and came to the US with a dream.”
“I found that sometimes when you truly follow your truth and your purpose, you test it and you face many tests, challenges, experiences that are designed to strengthen your physical, mental, spiritual, emotional muscles so that you can become and evolve into the person that is fully actually able to fulfill the vision between the idea of the business that you have in your mind.”
I face many tests along the way, but it was a challenging decision to follow my truth. I think just one of the things that keeps us stuck is we don't tell the truth to ourselves.
“There was just one thing, I would invite everyone listening in to sit with this. Number one, if you’re really serious about shifting or trying to shift in your life is to really look at where am I lying to myself? Where am I not telling the truth to myself? Where am I BSing myself? Where am I in denial? What is it I’m pretending to not know, and to feel that.”
“Then sit with, what is it costing me? What is the payoff these things does? What is it costing me to tell these lies? Then sit with, what is it I’m most afraid of? What is it I’m deeply afraid will happen if I told the truth? What is my biggest fear? Many times, we’re able to articulate and face our biggest fear, we realize this and we make peace with it. We realize it’s often not as scary as our mind is making it up inside of ourselves.”
“The last thing I’ll say is really sit with also, after you sit with your biggest fear, it’s easy to get focused on that, but will lose site of the possibilities. Sit with what great thing might happen by telling the truth, by living the truth? What amazing thing might open up and open the possibilities that happen from speaking the truth.”
“I think our freedom and our happiness is in direct proportion to our willingness to tell the truth to ourselves, not to put our head in the sand, but look reality in the face because it’s only by, whether you’re a business person, whether you’re in a relationship, whatever it is, it’s only by looking at reality, making friends with reality, dealing with reality that you can change reality.”
Many times, we don't want to deal with reality, but by not dealing with reality, we keep ourselves stuck.
Segment 2: (Length :08:00) – Talking with Kute Blackson; The dream chooses you; trusting the vision; Dealing with critics.
Kute’s finer points:
“I grew up in London, one of the poorist neighborhoods in London. I grew up in Brixton. I grew up in Peckham. Brixton was where they had the riot. Peckham was even worse than Brixton. These weren’t neighborhoods where people have much vision.”
“Growing up in England as a whole wasn’t a culture that was let’s say conducive, unlike America, to personal growth. In America, although it’s not a perfect country, it’s an amazing country because you can go to any bookstore and find a huge self-help section. You have icons like Tony Robbins, Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson.”
I didn't grow up with that in my environment. I grew up in a circumstance in an environment that was quite limiting. Yet I felt this burning desire.
“I think for me, what I found that also keeps me going was the realization of this. I realized at quite a young age that your dream chooses you. We think we choose our dream, but I believe that our dream chooses us.”
“It chooses you because based on everything you’ve been through, your pain, your trauma, your screw-ups, everything about yourself, everything you’ve ever thought, every break-up, every heartbreak, every failure, every success, all of those experiences have perfectly made you who you are.”
“I believe your dream chooses you because you’re the perfect person to fulfill that vision, to fulfill that dream. There’d be lots of people that won’t get your vision. There’d be lots of people that won’t see your vision. There’d be lots of people that don’t see what you see. They won’t see the book, the business, the idea, what it is you want to create, the impact you want to have in the world.”
“I say they don’t see it because they’re not you. They don’t see because they’re not the ones with the vision. You’re the one with the vision. You’re the one that’s been given the vision because you’re the perfect person based on everything you’ve been through to fulfill that vision.”
I think when we're given a vision, we have to trust that we're given the vision for a reason and that's why I say your dream chooses you. Your dream chooses you, so ultimately, it's not your dream.
“I don’t feel like my dream just belongs to Kute. I believe it actually belongs to life. I believe our visions and our dreams belong to the universe and the universe picks us and we are simply the vessels. We are simply the vehicles to fulfill those vision.”
“I think when we really take on that paradigm, sometimes we have a vision and we go, ‘Oh my God, how am I going to do this? How is this going to happen? I don’t have the money. Oh my God.’ Then other people go, ‘How are you going to do business? That’s never going to happen. You don’t have the education.’ I feel like if we’ve been given the vision, we have to trust it’s there for a reason.”
“I think when we really accept that we’ve been called to the vision for a reason, first, rather than try to figure out first, that shifts the game.”
For me, what kept me going was, the realization was, this vision I have is bigger than me. It doesn't belong to me. That gave me a lot of inspiration especially in those times when I didn't know what I was doing.
“I believe that sometimes the mind’s vision of your life can be a little limited because the mind is finite, but I believe comes from a spiritual perspective that our soul is infinite, our soul is connected to everything and everyone.”
“I just followed my vision.”
“I believe that when we truly in alignment with our vision, when we’re truly in alignment with our deeper knowing, our intuition, what we are guided to do inherent in the vision is the seed for its fulfillment but we have to show up.”
I think those that can show up, you're already 50% ahead of the game. Show up. I think you can show up in a state of innocence. You don't have to know how it's going to unfold. You don't have to know what's going to happen next.
“I think one of the myths is you have to know your entire life’s purpose. You have to know the entire plan. I believe you don’t have to know but if you’re guided, you just have to show up, take a step.”
“Take a step because what I found is even if you don’t know, there’s a part of you that does know and you don’t have to know where you’re going even though we’re told you have to know where you’re going. I believe you don’t have to know where you’re going in order to get to exactly where you really need to be for your highest destiny.”
“When you show up and you take the step, I find that your purpose in your life is revealed to you as you take a step. Life is revealed in each step.”
“I think our job is not to try and control the things that we can’t control in life, we can’t control other people. We can’t control certain results. What we can control is listening, taking action, and giving 100%, talk about hustle, hustling, giving 100% to everything that we can, every relationship, every action.”
I found that there was no shortage of people who had opinions of my life. There'll be no shortage of people that will tell you what you can do, what you can't do, what you can achieve, that would impose their limitations on you and your business and your idea and your creativity.
“I made a decision many years ago that I was not going to listen to those that had not done what I wanted to do. I was not going to listen. I looked at it, I would take … I was always very open to feedback, but one of the secrets for me was I would look at, has this person achieved what I wanted to achieve.”
“If the answer was no, I wouldn’t listen to them because I just made a choice, I’m not going to let their limitation determine where I’m going to go with my life. That was huge for me. That was really huge.”
“I would just invite everyone to trust the knowing, trust the soul, trust the wisdom that in your heart and in your mind and in your being, and listen to that, follow that because you will be guided I ways you cannot imagine.”
Segment 3: (Length :10:00) – Training leaders; Journey to write his book, You.Are.The.One; the Liberation Experience;
Kute’s finer points:
I had risked everything already. I risked my relationship with my father. I already taken the step. I pretty much packed my bags. I wasn't waiting for the universe anymore. I had said yes and I was already walking, and the universe I believe met me in that step.
“I believe that if the leaders that set the tone and the frequency and the embodiment and the example for everything else, they set the template.”
“What I find is I can change the psychology and the inner state of the leaders. One of the most important things is, two things I’ll say, is the realization that they are servants. I think there’s a new paradigm of coming from service and leadership as service.”
“I seek to instill that when I go into companies just to work with the leadership first to shift that. Also, one of the things I think in an organization is communication, transparency, integrity, and for leaders, I believe you can’t really lead other people until you can lead yourself.”
What I really have leaders look at is integrity.
“I think the more that an individual has integrity with one’s self, with one’s actions, with their thoughts, their actions, their beliefs, and how they show you, how they communicate a line, the more trust they will generate.”
“When an individual I think is truly living in integrity, they’re walking their walk, what they do, what they say, they’re communicating and they’re following through. That creates trust in an organization.”
You Are The One is my first book, came out this year, came out about three months ago now. I'm just touched it's inspiring people.
“I sold the book to Simon and Schuster, and they gave me an advance and everything, and I turned my first manuscript in and it was like, “We want you to make a few changes.” A few changes, I realized that they want a completely different book.”
“I resisted it for a while, but I believe that everything has a reason, everything the intention, and I think one of the secrets to my success has been to truly surrender.”
“Actually, when I say surrender, it doesn’t mean giving up. It means surrendering to the highest good. My prayer now is not simply what do I want. That’s the old paradigm I think of manifestation. What do I want? What do I want based on my ego, based on my conditioning, based on who I think I am. Versus really opening to what is it that wants me?”
“That’s really part what the book is about. It’s a new paradigm. What is it that wants me?”
“In 2006, I built a very successful coaching business and I got this guidance, this intuition that create the journey. The journey was called The Liberation Experience.”
“It was a one on one, 24/7, 14-day non-stop transformation experience with immersion journey to India. I take one person, a leader, visionary, to India. Take with you your passport. You have one backpack, a pair or clothes, one journal. Nothing else you have not idea where you’re going.”
We all want to be great, but I think greatness is not something that's just bestowed on us from the heavens just like some miraculous thing or isn't just something that's given to you based on the family or upbringing or based on some mystical moment.
“You write your will in case you don’t come back. You write letters to everyone in your life in case you don’t come back. You surrender completely and I strip you of all those places that you may have held on to for sense of safety, security, identity, power, a sense of self. I think you want a crazy, amazing, life-changing inner transformational journey. That was called The Liberation Experience.”
“The book is based on some of the stories and I take you as the reader through that journey and it’s all about let’s just say finding purpose, discovering who you really are, and really learning how to love fully.”
“I think greatness is a moment to moment choice that we all have to make moment to moment to moment to moment to not buy into our fears, not buy into our past, not buy into our stories, but to buy into the truth of our being and to be willing to live that. It’s a moment to moment choice.”
“I realized the bottom line is no one owes me anything. God doesn’t owe me anything. My parents owe me nothing. That affected to me a radical responsibility for my life. Sometimes, it can be a little scary to take on responsibility for our lives because then we have no one else to blame. Then we realized, I’m actually really powerful.”
Segment 4: (Length :03:00) – Hustler Thought of the Day:
don’t really teach people. I don’t’ really train people. What I do is I untrain people; I uncoach people. As a transformational coach, I help people peel away the layers that block the free expression of their true gifts; of their true essence of their authentic selves. - Kute Blackson
GENERAL NOTES:
Kute Blackson – Transformation Specialist, Speaker, Author
- A charismatic visionary and transformational teacher, Kute Blackson offers a fresh, bold look at spiritual awareness for a whole new generation.
- Born in Ghana, West Africa, Blackson’s multicultural upbringing as the child of a Japanese mother and a Ghanaian father has spanned four different continents. His unique lineage lay the blueprint for his approach to breaking down barriers and unlocking an individual’s true gifts and greatness.
- Blackson has had a gift for transforming lives- including his own-since childhood. The son of a revered spiritual leader and healer, Blackson was speaking to his father’s congregations in more than 300 churches by the age of eight.
- At the age of 14, he was ordained into his father’s ministry and groomed to carry on the family’s spiritual legacy. But his heart’s truth told him that his destiny would not be in the church. He would need to take a leap into the unknown and forge a path of his own.
- Though Blackson was raised all over the world, he had always dreamed of life in America. As if by kismet, he won a green card just after finishing school in London. He came to America alone just months later, with no connections or prospects. When Blackson arrived in Los Angeles, all he had to his name were two suitcases and the dream of seeking out the spiritual and self-help icons who had inspired him when he was a boy.
- Blackson quickly learned that the “outside-in“ approach favored by so many in the personal development space had to become an inside-out So he decided to create his own method—a process that liberates the individual and the true self at the core and then pushes those gifts outward into the universe. This helps the individual get in touch with who they really are. It is a process of breaking free—so that the individual can live, give, and share the truest expression of their self. This is what Blackson calls “Liberated Living.
- He’s created the radical “Liberation Experience,” and the group process “Boundless Bliss—The Bali Breakthrough Experience. He’s also the author of YOU.ARE.THE.ONE. which was released through Simon and Schuster on June 7, 2016.
- Check him out at http://kuteblackson.com | Kute Blackson Instagram | Twitter | Facebook
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